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בשלשה דברים אדם ניכר: בכוסו, ובכיסו, ובכעסו. ואמרי ליה אף בשחקו. (עירובין סה:)

“One’s true personality is measured through three things: how he deals with:

1-wine,

2-money,

3-anger.

Some add a forth item: laughter” (Eruvin 65b).

This Gemara is well known and quite cryptic. What is it trying to teach us? Much has been said on the matter. Let us illustrate the beauty of how this adage relates and defines the goal of our Purim celebration.

The Mishnah in Avos (4:21) tells us that there are three root destructive behaviors which prevent a person from enjoying this world. They are:

1- Ta’avah, lustful pursuit of pleasures,

2- Kinah, jealousy,

3- Kavod, desire for honor.

One who dedicates his life to these pursuits will never find happiness or fulfillment. On the flip side, one who is balanced and content in these three departments will live productively and happily. The real servant of Hashem trains himself to control his evil urges and to pursue truth and spirituality. The Torah teaches one how to do this.

There are three aspects of one’s life. They are:

1- His relationship with himself,

2- his relationship with others,

3- his relationship with Hashem.

Each has its own importance and specific dynamics.

The three destructive behaviors (pleasure, jealousy, honor) enumerated in Avos and the three personality yardsticks (wine, money, anger) quoted above, are tied together by the three departments of our relationships (self, others, God) in the following way:

1- One who drinks wine, very quickly loses himself. Thus, this corresponds to man’s intrapersonal relationship with himself, showing how he deals with his personal desires.

2- One’s wallet represents his business dealings. Thus, how honest he is in business shows where he is holding regarding his interpersonal relationships with others. Subsequently, if he is honest, he has controlled his jealousy.

3- One who is easily angered lacks proper belief in Hashem. The proof  is that he thinks that his actions are determining factors in his success and cannot bear to see anyone violate his plans! He demands honor and recognition for his own greatness. Hence, this anger corresponds to and gauges one’s relationship and connection to Hashem.  

These are the three departments, the full picture of a person’s life.

How do we then explain the opinion which adds a fourth component in sizing up a person (wine, wallet, anger, laughter) based upon his “laughter”? What does that signify, have we not already covered all of the categories?! The answer is that this is what brings everything together! Laughter represents enjoyment and fulfillment in what one does. Only one who lives life and develops himself in these three departments can truly find happiness. Only one who lives with Hashem and His Torah will achieve bliss and enjoyment.

In the time of Purim, the Jews were not serving Hashem properly, this prompted Hashem to send Haman to threaten to annihilate them. By repenting and coming back to Hashem this meant that they committed themselves to act properly in all three departments of their service. The result was their salvation and achievement of an exalted state of happiness in their Torah observance. They developed and honed their three relationship groups and even more so they achieved the fourth level of bliss and laughter from their application and commitment to Torah study. Thus, we see how these four elements (wine, wallet, anger, laughter) directly relate to Purim. Let’s examine this further.

We have four Mitzvos on Purim relating to these four things as well:

1- To overcome our lusts and desires, we have a party L’shem Shamayim, using food and drinks for the service of Hashem. In our minds we train ourselves to have self-control.

2- To overcome our selfish ego and jealousy, we open our wallets and perform Mishloach Manos, gifts to other people. This helps us articulate that the world does not revolve around us, rather we strive to relate and care for others as well.

3- Our pursuit of honor makes us reluctant to give charity to others, as we wish to remain rich and powerful ourselves. However, Hashem desires that we emulate His kindness and acknowledge that He runs the world. An angry person only gets enraged because he feels that he is the boss, and gets upset when someone violated his wishes. However, our job is to follow Hashem and realize that He makes the rules. To develop a deeper connection to Hashem, we emulate His kindness by giving Matanos La’Evyonim, donations to those in need of money!

4- The last and most important aspect of the day is the one which brings everything to life and provides the greatest laughter, happiness and fulfillment. This is learning and applying of Torah! Thus, hearing and internalizing the words of the holy Megillas Esther is the savoring of inspirational and joyous words of Torah! Now we have a complete understanding of our service on Purim and also our daily Avodas Hashem.

R’ Yissachar Rothschild zt”l explains that we eat Hamentashin to show what destroyed Haman. The translation of their unique name (Hamentashin) is: “Haman tash, the weakening of Haman.” They are three-sided to show that when the Jews regained control and fulfilled their roles in their three aspects of their service of Hashem (self, others, God), this destroyed their enemy!

Purim is a special day when Hashem answers our prayers. This is because when we totally dedicate ourselves to Him, this produces strong feelings of closeness and love. Who would not do anything for someone that they adored? May our true colors shine forth and help us utilize this amazing day to achieve closeness with Hashem and may He answer all of our requests speedily, for the best!

When it finally happened, we were taken out of the land of Egypt ending our slavery. In exchange for freedom we accepted upon ourselves the yolk of the Will of Hashem as our savior we are eternally thankful to Him. As if it were not enough that He created us selflessly, He also gave us purpose to the alternative – utter waste. We are given the Torah accepting upon ourselves to live our lives through the Torah. Now we come to the laws, the enumerated details of what exactly this life entails.

The parshah begins ואלה (lit. And these), Rashi brings down that the word אלה retracts the previous. ואלה comes to add on to the previous topic. Several Midrashim say bring reasons to the placement of this parshah in reference to the acceptance of the Ten Commandments in the previous parshah. The ideas of the Alter being next to the Sanhedrin as well as the concept goes along with this. That is of course true but it is not the answer to the deeper question of what is the addition to the previous parshah. Rashi notes the Mechilta that tells us that just as the laws that were just mentioned are from Sinai so too are these laws. There is an obvious break in the end of the previous parshah from the beginning of the seventh aliyah. The Torah concludes the transmission of the Ten Commandments with the request of Klal Yisroel that Moshe speak to them not Hashem Himself. The Torah then seems to bring in additional laws that are directly related to their receiving the Torah, as the pasuk says “כה תאמר אל בני ישראל אתם ראיתם כי מן השמים דברתי עמכם” (Thus you say to the children of Yisroel they who saw, because from the Heavens I spoke with them). The beginning of our parshah is not only related to the previous pasuk regarding the Alter, but even to the receiving of the Torah as well.

We can begin to understand this connection with the great wisdom of the Rokaiach. He says that we find that Seder Nezikin which are the laws of Mishpatim to contain ten tractates. In fact the first three tractates which comprise the majority of the teaching of Nezikin each contain ten chapters. There of course is no coincidence that the number ten binds these together. We see another connection like this from a deeper look into a midrash. There is a Midrash Sh’chem that says that Hashem weighs the Ten Commandments equal to the Mishpatim. Says the midrash, just like there are ten commandments that are independently obligated, by the laws pertaining to da’yanim there are ten positive obligations and ten negative ones. Therefore we see that these laws are dear to Hashem like the Ten Commandments. In fact the spelling of the letter yud is twenty (that is יו”ד, the י is ten, ו is six, ד is four, being twenty). The pasuk ואלה המשפטים is the source of basis of the laws of judgment. The vuv which is the connection that adds on from the previous parshah, the gematria of וא”ו and the twenty mitzvos of da’yanim is twenty-six which is the same as Hashem. The Ramban says that the pasukim directly following the parshah of the Ten Commandments is linked to each of the commandments. The first of the ten is אנכי ה’ אלקיך which he says is the obligation of knowing Hashem, the second being the prohibition of idolatry. The Ramban says that the first pasuk כה תאמר אל בני ישראל אתם ראיתם כי מן השמים דברתי עמכם is connected to the mitzvah of אנכי ה’ אלקיך, the pasuk ולא תעשון is connected to the mitzvah of לא יהיה. Lastly the pasukim of ואלה המשפטים are connected לא תחמוד because if a person fails to realize that there is mishpat he will think that something that is not his should be. Then later on in parshas mishpatim we detail the laws pertaining to Kibud Av, Ritzichah, Adultry. This is clear from the midrash that כל התורה כולה תלויה במשפט. This thought of the Ramban extends the idea that we are explaining. It is clear that the nature of the mitshpatim represent the entire Torah, as do the Ten Commandments.

The Baal HaTurim brings down several wonderful notrikoon on the first pasuk that are worth thinking about, not that my approbation is needed. The last three words of the pasuk אשר תשים לפניהם, is gematria דקדוקי התורה ודקדוקי סופרים. Additionally there are five words in the pasuk which means that every da’yan judges truth just as the Five Books of the Torah, and it is as if Hashem had a partner in the creation of the world. Note that the world was created with the Asarah Mamaros, which are connection to the Ten Commandments. The greatest truth and power of justice is given to dayin, as he makes the Torah clear. The gemara in Eruvin presents a series of questions: asks R’Akiva, where is it known from that one is obligated to teach their students until they learn? As it says ולמדה את בני ישראל (Dev. 31 19). And where that up until it must be coherent before them? As it says שימה בפיהם (ibid.). And from where is one obligated to להראות לו פנים? (Rashi explains that to mean the explanation of what he learns). As it says ואלה המשפטים אשר תשים לפניהם. That is to say לפניהם (before them) so that it may be put in front of them like a set table. The Chazal also learn that לפניהם means before them (Bnai Yisroel) and not the other nations. It the mishpatim, as opposed to the chukim which are supposed to be clear in front of us. We can learn a marvelous thing from this! The Ramban we brought in earlier says that the mishpatim here are all found in the Ten Commandments (not just found but even represented) when Chazal learn that the idea of clarity of thought in the learning of Torah is found in this pasuk it must mean that is also true in אנכי ה’ אלקיך. This idea deserves its own discussion but the idea of realizing the existence of Hashem is something that must be worked on just like the mishpatim in this parshah. Not to say that אנכי is a mishpat, it isn’t. To tell us that we can understand the yolk of the Torah with that clarity.

We still need to explain the connection between the first pasuk and the subject of Eved Ivrai. The Rokaiach points out that we have the Ten Commandments prior to this parshah. We accepted the yolk of the Torah with aspiration to know who is Hashem. We made Hashem our Master, therefore a slave should not be a slave of a slave, rather under his Master. As the pasuk says כי לי בני ישראל עבדים and not slaves of slaves. The parshah of Eved deals with his freedom after six years. Additionally the Jubilee Year, that of every Fiftieeth year. The parshah also deals with mitzvah of Shiviyis which is ceasing work of the fields in the seventh year. The parshah also mentions the mitzvah of Shabbos, also on the seventh day. These innyunim all deal with the seventh being the time where we have freedom. Freedom of physical strain, from the burdens of slavery, both to the physical and to one’s debts. Eved Ivrai no longer is fully an Eved Hashem but and Eved Shel Uvudim, that means that he works for the middle man. In another understanding it is also that he becomes enslaved by his physicality. He loses sight of who he is and what defines his life. That is why a nirtzah is obligated to be pierced in his ear as a sign that he has obstructed is vessel for accepting the Will of Hashem. The gemarah we brought before from Eruvin that describes the obligation of making the Torah clear is a connection to this innyan. Such a clarity would protect a person from ever becoming an eved (from theft), additionally chas v’shalom such a thing were to happen he would be able to still be guided by the Will of Hashem. The Torah presents certain parshiyos in the Torah so that we may be able to overcome them. They are all here for our benefit; to grow from. We should all be able to take our avdus under the great Master of Hashem and be zocheh to יצא לחפשי חנם, where we are not under the control by our yetzer ha’ra only an Eved Hashem!